Sunday, February 18, 2007

More than just a reason

There's an old saying about relationships: People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

I hooked up today with a friend whom I hadn't seen in almost six months. No matter where our lives take us, we are brought back together by a hockey team. When the Kamloops Blazers come to town, we know it's our day.

We sat and talked about where our lives have taken us since we moved out of the house in Montgomery almost two years ago.

And we couldn't believe how much time has passed and how long we've kept some of the people in our lives.

Doyle ... he's known me for 10 years, since I moved out west.

Dale ... she's been my rock since she moved out west in 2000.

Kirk ... entered my life in 1999.

Traci ... one of my best friends since Grade 11. Good grief, that's 20 years exactly.

The only one with whom I'm in constant contact is Dale. But the others ... I know they're there when I need them.

A valuable part of my world, they show me a bit of who I am ... after all, the people close to you are a reflection of who you really are.

They are smart, they are intelligent, they are passionate ... and they care.

We may not always understand the reason we are in each other's lives. Those lessons may not be learned for decades to come.

But I look forward to figuring it out ... and it also helps me realize there are a select few new people in my life whom I'd like to keep around for a few decades, too.

If not a lifetime.

1 comment:

  1. Friends broaden our horizons. They serve as new models with whom we can identify. They allow us to be ourselves—and accept us that way. They enhance our self-esteem because they think we’re okay, because we matter to them. And because they matter to us—for various reasons, at various levels of intensity—they enrich the quality of our emotional life.

    Poet and novelist Judith Viorst in Necessary Losses